What my relationships have taught me about life...

What my relationships have taught me…

1.     The importance of being EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY, and MENTALLY independent.  In relationships, we sometimes let our hair down too much and completely LOSE sight of how to function on our own without seeking reassurance from our friends or significant others.  This is unhealthy for our well-being because when these individuals are no longer in sight, you could possibly be left feeling incomplete, lost, and frustrated. It is important to remember that you are GREAT as an individual and don’t need another individual to make you a “SOMEBODY” in this world.

2.       Having a LIFE of your OWN.  Sometimes in relationships, we become so enthralled with our significant others that we lose sight of our own lives and the things most important to us.  It is important to remember to maintain healthy relationships, hobbies, goals, and activities of your own even when in a committed relationship.  These things help you in maintaining your own identity and will make your life and relationship more fulfilling.  Without them, you will completely LOSE sight of who you are and possibly send your partner running for the hills.

3.       That it’s okay to be ALONE.  Oftentimes, we stay in relationship because we are afraid of change, rejection, or loneliness.  There is nothing wrong with being alone – this gives you time for self-discovery, self-reflection, and IMPROVEMENT.

4.       That it is important to maintain happiness on your own and not look to ANYONE else for fulfillment in your life.

5.       The importance of having GREAT girlfriends and healthy relationships. J  Sometimes us ladies get so excited with our new man, that we put all other relationships to a HALT and forget about all the people that were important in our lives PRIOR to Mr. Right’s arrival.  It’s okay to enjoy the new addition to your life, but still important to remember the people that really make your life happen.

6.       And just a side note…if your Mr. Right is someone who takes up too much time and extremely jealous of your “outside” relationships, this could be a RED FLAG he is NOT Mr. Right.  If you have the unfortunate chance of encountering one of these insecure, needy, controlling individuals,   you should grab your things and RUN as quickly as your running shoes or heels will allow you.